The Zen of Blogging About Barbados, Or, Why Do You Care?

The Zen of Blogging About Barbados, Or, Why Do You Care?

bflower2You Barbadophiles have had me scratching my head for awhile now. Your comments on recent blog posts  …

Your comments are not just kind but generous; you demonstrate a generosity we normally reserve for dear friends. You freely give affirmation, kindness, and personal insights. To me, a stranger. You let me know things about yourselves (I wholeheartedly agree that a divorce is as painful as any other death). I read and reread your messages and feel stronger for them.

Why Do You Care?

Besides your generosity what has had me scratching my head is wondering why you care. Which leads me to ask, “Why do you read my blog?” (um, and “Why do I write it?”) and, “Why do people read (or write) blogs at all?”

A confluence of events are helping me understand:

First, the “awakening” to the joy of living (is “awakening” too gooey a word? Too religious? I’m not a religious person, unless you count Bico rum & raisin ice cream …).

Second, your very personal comments to me as though to a friend.

Third, seeing the movie Julie & Julia. If you’ve not seen it, Julie & Julia is the true story of a young woman’s adventures in meeting her goal of cooking every Julia Child recipe from Mastering the Art of French Cooking in a year’s time. She writes of her experiences (ranging from disastrous meals to a disastrous love life caused by her goal-meeting  cooking obsession) … on a blog.

So why did people read Julie’s blog? To be entertained. To learn something about cooking. Mostly, though: to feel something. And to root for someone … to give a damn. Which we so dearly want but too rarely have the opportunity to do.

Blogs are ultimately about human connection. We hear about the Internet isolating individuals; in some cases, maybe so. More often it brings us together.

Here’s the point:  Your thing might be cooking, my thing might be travel. It doesn’t matter …

It doesn’t matter what our thing is or where we live or how we live, because ultimately a blog isn’t just a conveyor of information, it’s an exploration of emotions every one of us has. I found myself identifying with Julie’s feelings and then cheering this young woman on.

I so much wanted Julie to meet her goal … not because I give a whit about cooking (I really truly don’t) but because I, too, struggle with goals. The struggle and the feelings and the little & huge triumphs and set-backs along the path of life … these connect us … these are the glue that bonds us human beings. You to me and me to you. Even if we never meet.

Connection is why we write blogs and read blogs. And this connection with each other is what provides meaning to life.

… that’s why you wrote to me when you felt my pain. Thank you.

Our feeling connected deepens our lives and helps us feel our lives.

Connection. Reaching out and touching someone.  We’re each doing the best we can and we are not alone.

Still smiling, a day at a time.

Still smiling, a day at a time.



4 Responses to “The Zen of Blogging About Barbados, Or, Why Do You Care?”

  1. Wendy says:

    Jane … Beautiful post … I must say I agree with other commentors who say they think of you as a friend – that may sound odd but part of my reason is reading your blog feels like a letter from a friend. You put a lot of of yourself and your feelings into your writing. It has a very open and honest feel. I know I subscribe to your feed and read and enjoy every single post. I look forward to see them in my in box. Thank you for bringing a piece of Barbados to me so often.

  2. rainy says:

    Hi Jane:

    I came across your blog while doing research on my marriage license. I was married on Rockley Beach Barbados. My grandparents are from the beautiful island of Montserrat. I love the carribbean islands. My grandfather was very proud of his west indian heritage and shared it with us grandkids. What I love most about Barbardos among other things is that it is where I started my life as Mrs. Rainy Hickman-Linsdeau. I married the man I love on that beach. Barbados will forever be special to me. What has kept me reading this blog is that it is like visiting the island each time I see a new post. Learning different things about the island and its people, making me want to visit the island again. Over the past year, you have shared many different things about your life and I have responded. You have become like a distant friend who lives in Barbados and writes about her adventures and new life. I hope you continue to write you blog and share your life with us. Your blog has been a pleasure to read and you are a wonderful person to share with us details of your life. Not to many people would open themselves up to the world and you have.

  3. Wendy and Rainy and everyone … you’re the best. Thank you. You touch me. xox

  4. Ahh, you were married on Rockley Beach! I love it. Greg and I married on Hastings Beach, just adjacent to Rockley. So beautiful … Greg laughed when I said I wanted to marry there. “What a cliche,” he said. To me it was a dream, as it was to you, marrying the man you love in the paradise that is Barbados.

    I always appreciate your contributions, Rainy. Thank you for reading, for writing, for sharing who you are and what you feel. I think you express so well the magic that is here and wanting to access that magic in any way possible, including through my writing.

    From one West Indian to another, in-process :) xox

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